Every now and then we all need to recharge our batteries. It may be that we have had a traumatic experience, suffered a heartbreak, a financial crisis or a particularly busy period at work. No matter what the cause every now and then we need to take time out to assess our own mental health and protect it.
The hardest thing about looking after your mental health is realising when you’re heading for a crash and learning to surrender the fight BEFORE the you get caught in the event horizon of the black hole. Once you recognize the danger (and it’s usually at the point where it’s almost too late) you have to act.
Identify your trigger.
March 2019 my back started to hurt again. By October it was so bad I was unable to work full time. In January 2020 I had my 3rd trip to A&E in 10 months, and I have been bed bound since then.
The covid 19 Lockdown has delayed my treatment and at present I’m expecting to remain bed bound until December or January at the earliest. The lockdown didn’t really change my life, in fact it gave me some relief as everyone else was confined to the home too.
Now the lockdown is lifting and everyone is heading out.
Everyone except me.
And the one place I used to find a safe place has become a place filled with hate, intolerance, hypocrisy and lies. Today I closed all my Twitter accounts, because the hate and lies I am seeing is unhealthy.
Time to recharge.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.unknown
I have realized that I am heading for that place. That dangerous depressive place and I need to stop and look inwards, remove the things that are causing the issue.
To recharge I am going to spend some time doing the things I like, the things that feed my soul.
Intimacy, the power of a hug.
One recognised treatment for reducing the symptoms of a panic attack is a firm hug. To work firm pressure must be applied to large areas of the body, so being held by two people, or one person, firmly, acts on your sympathetic nervous system, the body calms and the attack reduces. I’m not saying this works for everyone, but I know it works for me, and I know it’s worked for a few others. **
In general terms, I find having my hair stroked makes me feel better, well physical contact in general makes me feel better. I think there is something healing about being in the arms of someone who loves you, or even cares or you deeply. Just as a child feels safe and secure in the arms of a parent, I have that same feeling when I am held, and so that is where I retreat to when I need to recharge.
Taking care of me.
At the moment I am listening to books, crocheting soft toys, and taking pictures. I am doing things that make me happy and calm. I will still be reading blogs as I always have but I am staying away from social media and the negativity, I am seeing there.
This does mean that for the next few weeks I may write less, as I focus on my own mental health and recharging my batteries.
If you need someone to talk to I can be contacted using the contact me form.
This post was inspired by two memes, click the names to see more posts linked to the topics. Wicked Wednesday #421 “Surrender‘ and 4 Thoughts or Fiction #152 “Intimacy of Body language.”
** As with all treatments for panic attacks, what works for one may not work for another, all you can do is try things and see if they work for you.