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Tell Me About: Labels

Labels are, I think, part of life that we can’t escape. In fact, I would go so far as to say that labels form an essential function in our ability to communicate with each other, and to learn other languages. They provide a way to share meaningful experiences and history through the telling of stories.

Labels aid Communication.

In short, if we didn’t have labels we would not be able to communicate. The formation of common languages was made possible because we accepted the labels assigned to objects and people. These labels then allowed us to learn other languages because a table is a table…. if you know what I mean!

In a personal sense labels are assigned to people for many reasons, and in all spheres of life. We are labelled by our profession, our personal situations, our relationships and our associations. Are you a blogger? A teacher? An accountant? Are you disabled? Are you a parent? Are you a feminist? So many labels that we navigate everyday. I would love to know is how those languages came about, how we came to understand that some labels would be fixed and some would be flexible, for example a door is a door and always has been, but a person can have many labels that change over time. I mean who came up with the word forfire?

Of course language does evolve, even now it is undergoing a huge evolution with new words to describe and define gender, and the rejection of binary pronouns, new words have come into being. The vast majority of the worlds population is having to relearn something that they have considered fixed for centuries. It isn’t something that will become widespread overnight but slowly I’m sure it will disseminate and these new words will become part of every day language.

Defining roles.

When entering the BDSM world you could easily find yourself overwhelmed by the number of labels that people will try to apply to you to or ask you to assign to yourself. Are you a dominant, a submissive or a switch? Then there are the subsets, do you have a little personality? Are you a sadist? Honestly the list is endless. But why? Why do we need labels at all. Why can’t we all just be.

Well I think it is because we like to label people, and have them fit into little pigeon holes. It isn’t easy to move people from one hole to another, but it is essential to accept that people can and will change over time and as such they may need to change the pigeon hole they used to be in. Or, and perhaps more importantly, that the label we gave them was not correct. I have a huge amount of respect to those who are big enough to admit they got something wrong, because it takes more coursge to do it. Someone who leaves a long term relationship in which they were submissive may decide to explore their dominant side. In this instance their focus has changd. We, and they, must move their label accordingly. Another example would be when your first impression of a person is wrong. Perhaps they seemed judgemental, but were actually holding back because they were nervous. These too require an adjustment but this time only on the observers part.

I think it is only fair to say that given the fluid nature of our personalities, we must accept that labels do not always accurately define us, and it is ok to reject the labels that others place on us. We are more than one thing, we are the sum of many different parts, and those parts evolve and change constantly.

Horoscope horror.

On a side note…

I don’t know if you have seen this in the news with the other horrible things going on, but almost everyone’s star signs changed recently as there are 13 constellations not 12. Now, I imagine that when our ancestors created the horoscopes they could only see 12, so it isn’t that they did anything wrong. My own sign has changed and after a lifetime as a Libra I am now a Virgo. See how easily labels change?

Sweetgirl x

Sweet Autumn Rose  

 

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15 thoughts on “Tell Me About: Labels”

    1. Okay!!! Now I am really pissed off. I went from being this handsome archer to being a guy holding a snake. Ophiuchus: November 29th to December 17th… My B-Day is Dec 4th. I’m holding you responsible Sweetgirl for my newfound knowledge. But, now that I think of it, I never hold or play with a bow, usually something more resembling a snake.

  1. No way am I changing my sign. I’m a Gemini through and through! I also just found out about the new signs today but that was after reading something from NASA that said they didn’t change the horoscope. I guess the ones in charge of the signs did but I’m still going to be a Gemini lol

  2. The new sign isn’t new. It’s been re-discovered many times and every few years throws people into an uproar. Astrologists aren’t making any changes as that would cut Scorpios down to a 7-day window. So don’t worry if you love your sign you can still keep it .

    It’s always about the wobble

    Besides throwing your fans into an uproar, great post Sweet!!

  3. This is a brilliant post sweet. I wasn’t aware of the change I star signs so I went to look it up. I don’t particularly follow them but it illustrated your point about things changing really well. Sometimes labels help us to make sense of things, understand and indenting with others who are similar but other times they can be a negative every thing and cause others to lump us together and see us in a way which isn’t helpful. Really derailed and interesting

  4. Great post- good solid thinking on a large topic. I actually got a label maker recently & plan to have lots of fun keeping objects neatly in the correct place- but I don’t want anyone fencing ME in with a label- especially if I didn’t assign it to myself.

    As for the horoscope thing – yeah I’m kinda pissed about That changing. Elliott has made me see the funny side though!

  5. You are very correct…labels are just part of understanding language. And as long as labels are just that…labels…rather than cages or ways of judging…then they are useful. And, as long as we have the power to shift labels, I can handle them. It can make things confusing, the shifting, but other people’s confusion is not worth sticking to labels that make sense to them. We can label ourselves however we like. Or not.

    And the horoscopes? I cannot even.
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