Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Public play isn’t something we have done, but we’ve spoken about it. We went to an event (of sorts) and watched our good friend administer a flogging to her slave. It was interesting to watch. Sexy Public Play Initially when we first went to The Townhouse I was intrigued by all the equipment. There’s a sex swing in the BDSM room that I would like MrH to fuck me in. There’s a medical chair that he could secure me in and then play with me, …
This is something that I have written about before, my collars I mean, and I say collars because I have a few. My first post dedicated to them, collars and chains discussed the basics and why we decided to use them. Since then I’ve posted about new collars made and these have been relatively brief, but I think I have talked about the symbolic value of my chains and collars in a number of posts, and I will try not to repeat myself too much. …
The power exchange between Mr H and myself is at the core of what we do. When we started D/s and I asked Mr H to take control I didn’t realise how much it would change our lives. I definitely didn’t realise how much better our lives would become. What was it like before? Before, I tried to control every aspect of our lives. Where we went out to (when we went out). What we bought. When we had sex. The only thing in our …
When this prompt on Erotic Humiliation first started I told Missy I didn’t think I’d have anything to contribute as it’s not something we’ve done. But- As I’ve read the wonderful submissions I have come to realise that it is an area that I do get off on, I just didn’t realise it had a name. I kinda just thought it was talking dirty. Blushes When I ask Mr H if he will fuck me, or try to ask him to play with me anally …
Mr H and I have been D/s for almost 2 years, but roleplay is one area we have not dabbled in – unless you count the strip tease dance I did for Mr H. We have talked about it but while I am quite able to slip into a character and pretend, Mr H is not. He struggles with the concept and it is far outside his comfort zone. Someone suggested I come up with a script for him to follow, and on the surface …
When I asked MrH to explore BDSM with me I didn’t really know where it would lead. In my mind I painted a picture of what it would be like and how it would work. The reality was quite different. 100% better than I thought possible. I have found that I need his dominance to make me feel good. I need him to be in control to feel secure. I need to feel taken care of to feel safe. I need to know I am accountable to feel …
Normally I wouldn’t use the phrase “must” or “should” in relation to BDSM. Normally I would say do what works for you. But, in this one thing I am going to. In my opinion you cannot and should not be in any form of BDSM relationship without Trust. Whether it’s Bondage, Discipline, Dominance and submission, Sadism or Masochism, every aspect requires Trust. The Basics In the beginning, I believed M rH and I Trusted each other. I opened the door to D/s and that Trust …
Spanking was one of the first things I put onto my “Hell Yes” list when we began exploring BDSM. I didn’t do a whole lot of research, naively thinking I had a good understanding of the subject! Oh how little I knew!!!! Thankfully Mr H did do research. Unbeknownst to me, a lot of research. He found websites and forums, and brought them to my attention. In his post A New Dom’s Tale he talks about the first 6 months and his experience and his …
I have rules. I’m not necessarily great at following them. They started little. I was to be respectful to him. Mr H doesn’t like me swearing and so he expected me not to swear and I was not to role my eyes at him. The first time I asked him to help me by setting a rule was felt strange. It took me ages to work up to it. I had a bad habit and I asked Mr H to help me manage it. I was waking …
One of the first things MrH and I did when we started our D/s journey was agree some safewords. We went with the very simple traffic light system that is quite commonly used. During impact play MrH would ask me “what colour?” Green If I was comfortable and happy to continue, I would respond with “Green.” Yellow If I could continue but was getting close to my limit, or needed a little break, I would respond with “Yellow.” Red – ‘The Safeword’ This isn’t a …