Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Well would you? Would you? I would. In fact I do, all the time. I lie to myself daily, hourly even. There are times when the lies are all I have. The biggest and most frequent one. I’m fine. People ask me, “how are you?” They don’t want the truth, they want a lie, they expect a lie. If you tell them the truth too much they hide away from it, and you. They don’t want to hear that it hurts so bad I feel …
I don’t really have lists of what I want to do, I gave up on them after my dad died. What is the point of making lists and plans when they can be taken from you at the drop of a hat? So I can’t really do a bucket list. I believe if you want to do something bad enough don’t ever wait, you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. Instead I am going to do a wish list. Living for Right Now Does that mean I never …
The food for thought prompt this week is one book. Choose one book…. And, for me that is simply impossible! I have so many books that at one time I had a database to keep track of them. I am a very fast reader. I mean really fast. I read a 250 page book in about one and a half hours, so when I went to the library I would take out 10 books to last 1 week (bearing in mind I only read on …
I am spoiled in many ways. MrH would give me anything I wanted if he could, if time and money were no object I might add, but in all honesty I think I am happy with very little. I don’t crave those usual indulgences, like expensive jewelry or perfumes. I like little things. A Little Treat I like chocolate. Nice dark chocolate. My favourite is Lindt Excellence Caramel with a touch of salt, or Dark Mint. These I see as an indulgence because it’s usually £2 …
I am not a fan of secrets. I don’t like having to censor myself or think before I speak. Our D/s isn’t common knowledge and so when I am among the people who do not know, I have to be cautious. Sometimes I find it hard to keep it secret, sometimes I don’t want to, but I do because I know MrH wants it to remain private. At heart I prefer being honest, I dislike duplicity. I’d rather not know something if I can’t share …
This song has had a lot of coverage in the last couple of years. After the Manchester Arena bombing it was sung over and over in tribute to those who died and as a reminder that the people of Manchester would not be beaten by acts of terrorism. It isn’t really a favourite of mine. I haven’t really been an oasis fan ever but when I saw this weeks prompt for food4thought I wasn’t sure what to write and this this morning as I was …
My dad passed away suddenly in 2003, from a massive heart attack, and I know I’ve talked about this before but, about a year or so after he passed I woke up from a vivid dream, sobbing. Now I don’t know if you or even if I believe it’s possible that loved ones who have died can come and visit you in your dreams, but that night, well you decide…… I was dancing with my dad, like I did when I was little, standing on …
When Mr H kisses me, deliberately, thoughtfully, I go weak at the knees. Sometimes we exchange the familiar daily kiss, and they have their own magic, but when he takes his time, hmmm those are the special erotic ones. The way he makes me feel. Sometimes, he will stroke my face, taking my chin in his fingers and tipping my face to his. Beginning gently, becoming stronger and deeper. His hands moving down my body to hold me tight. I usually sway against him, clinging to …
Red is the colour of my beautiful shoes. Red, (and black of course), are the colours of my new anniversary lingerie set, and the set in the featured image. Red is for passion and danger, so it fits that it is used as a safeword by many practitioners of BDSM. Red. My final safeword. The stop word. I think I’ve used it, two or three times. I tend to use yellow, which signals that I am nearing my limit more often than not. This is …
The F4TF prompt this week is music, and I’ve written a few posts this month focusing on music for the September Songs prompt, so for this one I decided to focus on why I need music in my life, what it gives me, and how I use it in different situations. Mostly I need familiar sounds in the background to enable me to focus, and music is the best way for me to achieve that focus. Music for the soul. I have playlists for work …