Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
I have written before about how I struggle when Mr H has to work on a Saturday, how I get anxious to an, in all honestly unhealthy level and if you follow my blog you will know Mr H has been in hospital this week. He isn’t home yet, but hopefully he is home today. I have coped emotionally, my anxiety has been normal and healthy, focused on Mr H and stay in hospital and him getting better. What I don’t like is how much …
I am not a fan of secrets. I don’t like having to censor myself or think before I speak. Our D/s isn’t common knowledge and so when I am among the people who do not know, I have to be cautious. Sometimes I find it hard to keep it secret, sometimes I don’t want to, but I do because I know MrH wants it to remain private. At heart I prefer being honest, I dislike duplicity. I’d rather not know something if I can’t share …
This song has had a lot of coverage in the last couple of years. After the Manchester Arena bombing it was sung over and over in tribute to those who died and as a reminder that the people of Manchester would not be beaten by acts of terrorism. It isn’t really a favourite of mine. I haven’t really been an oasis fan ever but when I saw this weeks prompt for food4thought I wasn’t sure what to write and this this morning as I was …
My dear friend and fellow submissive wife Submissy wrote an excellent post about what constitutes a scene and where the terminology comes from, and so I don’t want to repeat the same information, she expresses this so well I would prefer to direct you to her post. Instead I am going to focus on my experiences of scenes with Mr H. Our time constraints mean our scenes do not last for hours at a time, in fact I’ve never timed them so I couldn’t say …
With the crutches being used again to help me get about, Mr H has been opening doors and closing them, when we have had to go out. As he pointed out, I’ve been wanting him to open and close the car doors like this for a while, so I’m enjoying it immensely. I wait in the car for him to walk around and open the door. He offers me his hand and helps me out. I’d like to say it looks elegant but the reality …
My dad passed away suddenly in 2003, from a massive heart attack, and I know I’ve talked about this before but, about a year or so after he passed I woke up from a vivid dream, sobbing. Now I don’t know if you or even if I believe it’s possible that loved ones who have died can come and visit you in your dreams, but that night, well you decide…… I was dancing with my dad, like I did when I was little, standing on …
I’ve had many awkward moments in my life, and not all of them linked to kink, in fact most of them come from my vanilla life. Kids. There was the time T walked into the bedroom carrying a very large kitchen knife and an apple (he was 3). Mr H and I were having sex, and he wanted the apple peeled. Mr H calmly peeled the apple and T went back downstairs to watch his movie. Then there was the time when T was about …
I admit I love anal sex. It puts me into a mental place that I love but for various reasons it isn’t something we do often. Probably because of that it remains something that is very effective in putting me into a submissive space. Overpower Me There is something quite primal and Dominant about anal sex. The possibility for pain, the resistance of the body against intrusion, the need to actively surrender to his possession is something which I find highly erotic, and that’s before …
When Mr H kisses me, deliberately, thoughtfully, I go weak at the knees. Sometimes we exchange the familiar daily kiss, and they have their own magic, but when he takes his time, hmmm those are the special erotic ones. The way he makes me feel. Sometimes, he will stroke my face, taking my chin in his fingers and tipping my face to his. Beginning gently, becoming stronger and deeper. His hands moving down my body to hold me tight. I usually sway against him, clinging to …
The Fifty Shades trilogy did a lot to bring kink into the mainstream media and probably into a significant amount of relationships too. I have read the first book and yes the kink scenes were delightful and turned me on, but I actually found it a dreadful book to read. I started to read the second book and gave up. Most people are aware that it started life as Fan Fiction; E L James is a huge fan of Twilight, but the similarities between the …