Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
I have depressive illness. At the moment it is controlled by medication and careful management of what I do. I have to be careful not to take on too much, or to commit to too much. When I do I inevitably crash and burn. What I have found in the 14 years that I have lived with my illness is that people who haven’t experienced depression or seen someone close to them experience it, have absolutely no idea how to deal with it, or how …
Pain has become an old friend to me, it’s the kind of friend that sucks you dry, takes your energy and leaves you feeling like crap. Yes pain and I are well acquainted. I have written about my friend before, many times. How it has impacted our sex lives and my life in general. I’ve talked about the Medial branch nerve block – test procedure, the actual procedures, and after a few months pain free, the eventual its return. Chronic Pain. Since 2008 my life has been controlled my …
Consent in D/s relationships is essential. When a couple first begins this type of relationship it begins with communication. Communicating their interests and desires, their likes and dislikes, what they are willing to try and what they are not; consent is formed through these discussions. When Mr H and I began this journey I asked him to consider ‘doing that’ to me. The ‘that’ I referred to was a scene from Fifty Shades of Gray, in all honesty I forget which one, but the point …
Red is the colour of my beautiful shoes. Red, (and black of course), are the colours of my new anniversary lingerie set, and the set in the featured image. Red is for passion and danger, so it fits that it is used as a safeword by many practitioners of BDSM. Red. My final safeword. The stop word. I think I’ve used it, two or three times. I tend to use yellow, which signals that I am nearing my limit more often than not. This is …
The F4TF prompt this week is music, and I’ve written a few posts this month focusing on music for the September Songs prompt, so for this one I decided to focus on why I need music in my life, what it gives me, and how I use it in different situations. Mostly I need familiar sounds in the background to enable me to focus, and music is the best way for me to achieve that focus. Music for the soul. I have playlists for work …
I really wasn’t sure I could write for this prompt. It feels too close, too raw, but i decided to just put down a few lines and link my recent posts so I’m not repeating myself too much. Both our sons have now considered suicide, our youngest just a Few weeks ago. T battled the impulse for years (When your children suffer), I’m hoping that J will not. T refused to take medication. J takes it. I have had my own mental health battles, (I …
There is nothing I love more than Sunday Surprise Anal Sex; it doesn’t happen often, but that makes it even more special. A Normal Sunday. At 8pm UK time I toddled along to The Safewords Club for the chat. There’s usually a topic but sometimes it’s an open chat. This Sunday things went off on a tangent as a number of us have been lucky enough to receive a gift box from Satisfyer and so we all began discussing and comparing experiences. Part of our …
The latest prompt from the Tell Me About meme by The Safewords Club, is Rituals. I’ve written about this subject a few times and you can read them via the links at the bottom of the post. Fair warning there may be some repetition but I will do my best not to do it too much! So, without further blathering, let’s get to it, and talk about Rituals! The Oxford English Dictionary says that this word originates in the 16th century (at least as an …
There is one thing that truly frightens me, an incomprehensible paralyzing fear, and that is that Mr H will leave me.There have been many things (fears) in my life that have given me sleepless nights. Some have passed with time, some rear their heads time and again. Spiders It’s a cliche right? To be frightened by spiders… I mean in a silly, heart pounding, panic sort of way. Once I see the thing I can’t take my eyes off it, because the only thing more …
I use my blog to get my thoughts down on virtual paper and stop them from swirling around, my own version of the spanish inquisition, where I interrogate myself endlessly. Things have been rough for Mr H and I recently. Not in our relationship or in D/s terms, no, in fact I think that has helped us to weather it. This weeks Food 4 Thought prompt asks why do you write? Writing helps me process. I also hope that perhaps in some way the ups …