Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Over the last few years I have toyed with the idea of self employment, mainly because I find my health so unpredictable that attending work regularly becomes difficult. The problem being, when you are self employed you have to work or you do not earn. Less Pressure? But self employment could ultimately mean less pressure. Granted, I would have deadlines, but, I can type my pretty arse off in my own time. Especially when I can take my time to do it. If I do …
Yesterday’s post Hairy Pussy resulted in a long discussion between Mr H and myself. Probably one that was very overdue, well there is no probably about it really. I have written about how we have not made the effort we should, and again and again said we would, but we haven’t. We have not focused on ourselves, we have not been prioritising intimacy. Not really, and definitely not consistently. Life gets in the way. 2019 was not a great year for us. My back pain …
I am not very good at self promotion. It’s one thing I hated when I was self employed, and it is also the thing I struggle with most when it comes to blogging, the idea of ‘selling myself’. Anonymity. There are some brave, (and I do think they are brave), bloggers who show their faces in their images. I am not brave. We do not want our children to be faced with someone confronting them, as ClearEyedGirl has experienced, nor do we want anyone who …
I said I wasn’t going to do this. A old year reflection, a new year plan. I don’t like it. Plans suck. Plans don’t happen. At least for me. So reflecting on 2019 all I see is a long list of failed plans. And that sucks. The things that didn’t happen A biking holiday in Scotland More Biking in general Several Hotel Stays Attending a rope workshop Going to a BDSM event Going out for a meal with some girlfriends Turning a bedroom into a …
Personal Independence Payment, that’s what PIP stands for. I had my PIP assessment done on the 27th. It replaced Disability Living Allowance a few years ago and as my pain and mobility has been seriously affected this year I have applied for this state benefit. In all honesty I would rather not apply for benefits. I like to be independent, you know? But, I have also lost £150 per week in income when I stopped working full time hours, and that is not an easy …
On Friday, I was visited by a lovely lady, who came to see what adjustments could be made to our home, or equipment they would suggest, to make things easier for me around the house. She was really nice, sympathetic and kind. Even better she carries some equipment on her so after the assessment she left things with us. I wrote about the kind of things we hoped she would suggest in my post Opening Doors. So what did she suggest? Bathroom Equipment. The first piece …
My new employer invited MrH and I to go on the Christmas Party. It was at a local venue, and as I didn’t have to go into work the next day, we decided to go. It was an opportunity for us to go out together and get dressed up. Something we haven’t done in months, with one thing and another. Making and Effort for Each Other. Being able to dress up and look pretty is something I like doing, because I want MrH to be …
In 2015 I had a hysterectomy. I don’t regret it, in fact it was a turning point in my life. After the recovery I lost 5 stone, and eventually asked MrH to be my Dominant. Before the hysterectomy my life was controlled by blood. Periods the early years. I started my periods at 14. I remember clearly I was in my afternoon lesson and when we (the students) stood up as the teacher entered the classroom I got the most awful tummy pain. It took …
Twice a week The SafeworD/s Club host chats, they are an online munch if you will, a safe space to chat and share with like minded people. I join in as much as possible and if you haven’t been there click the link to create an account. (Details of the chat times are at the bottom of this post.) Last night at the chat I mentioned that I had a plan to place all MrH’s toys into drawers so he could access them more easily, …
Mr H is in hospital, he has kidney stones causing problems again. They have been causing problems for a few days and today it got too much. He came home from work, and phoned me. Several times. I had my phone on silent. It’s only my second day at my new job and I always have my phone on silent. In the end he phoned the office, to ask me to drive him to the hospital. I couldn’t stay with him, for one because he …