Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
There was a song I used to sing when I was little, it was on a record my dad bought me and occasionally it’s lyrics run through my mind. A reminder I suppose of innocent days before my parents separated. It was the B side to the ramblers track “only a poor little sparrow” but I loved it. You can find it on YouTube of course but it’s a poor quality recording. I think it always reminded me of my dad so that’s why I …
Bondage plays a big part of our relationship. When I first asked Mr H to consider adding BDSM elements to our relationship bondage was my starting point. I asked him to try restraining and dominating me. Mr H didn’t think I’d like being restrained and told what to do but he was willing to give it a go! Verbal Bondage Our first dabble was verbal control. He positioned me on the bed and told me “don’t move”. These simple words sent a tingle through me …
It feels like ages since I blogged and yet I know it’s not. At the moment I’m tired and I feel like I have nothing new or interesting to say.  Our D/s is tripping along on an even keel. We are talking on Wednesday evenings. We have a cane session on a Sunday and a Wednesday evening too. I told MrH that I was not getting the same effect from the cane as I had got used to it and so he increased the impact a …
It’s rare for relationships to last for 20+ years in today’s world and I think as a society we can be very “throw away” in our attitudes towards, not only things, but also the people in our lives. My gran and grandad were together over 60 years, had 5 children and several dogs (although only one at a time). My gran worked part-time when the children were grown up collecting rents for the coal board houses and my grandad worked down the pit. My dad …
I lost 2.5lbs this week, and I’ve followed the rules, so this afternoon I asked if Sir thought I deserved a treat. I figured, it can’t hurt to ask right?? And I’m feeling horny… I mean like I want an orgasm and Sirs cock inside me really bad! This weeks been hectic and we didn’t do the midweek cane session. We did talk, but Mr H didn’t feel like doing the cane work, so we didn’t. Feeling low I know that when we don’t do …
The message An unexpected Error Occurred was the first inkling that something had gone wrong. Turns out it had gone horribly horribly wrong. My WordPress hosted blog has been suspended. I don’t know why, they haven’t told me. I just know it’s gone. I managed to export the content, but for some reason they haven’t allowed me to export the images associated with each post, so I am going to have to try and rebuild each post, to try and remember which images went where …
If you read my last post you’ll know I was planning to talk to MrH during our new weekly maintenance session. I made my list of prompts and managed to get through them, with some unintended hilarity I might add. We can be lazy when it comes to communication and that is why we made a commitment to talk every week. Here is my list of topics, there aren’t many. We talked about each point in turn. Oral. Mr H will say he doesn’t really …
It’s nearing the end of February and I can’t quite believe how fast this year is going. We’ve made plans to go to a rope workshop which seemed months away and is now only weeks away! We have bought tickets to go to the bike show in Manchester and have started making a list of places to visit on a weekend on our bikes. We had a brilliant long weekend and despite not sleeping particularly well it was thoroughly enjoyable. I also had my hair …
The willingness to expose yourself, to bare your soul, to another person is exceptionally hard. When you think about it, it goes against the basic survival instinct to protect yourself. You’re voluntarily giving someone the ability to hurt you, sometimes obliterate you. But that is what some of us are willing to do expose our vulnerability in order to become stronger. This isn’t something that comes easily to me and yet once I started us on this path it is something I have had to …
This week has been amazing. I mean amazing. Our son went out on Wednesday night and we were able to play at home, we were able to take our usual impact play up a notch. Then Friday afternoon we went to a hotel. When we got there we unpacked, put the under bed restraints in place and made a drink. I went to the loo and stripped down to my bra and panties knowing Mr H planned for me to be naked but I felt unsure, as …