Life goes on: Death, Impact play and us.

Elizabeth II 1926-2022 I have seen her reign described as the “Elizabethan Age”, but I think they need to come up with some way to differentiate between Elizabeth I and II. There is after all a big difference between the two reigns although both were undoubtedly excellent people, who each reigned for rather a long time, referring to them both as the Elizabethan Age will get very confusing. Elizabeth II sat on the throne for 70 years, and baring some catastrophe it will be some …

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How my negative body image impacts our sex life

I’ve been pretty open about how the weight I have gained has really messed with my head. I have such a negative body image I avoid mirrors, social interactions and sex. The pain management program I did a few weeks ago was awful until I realised I could “hide” my image on the screen, and even then I cringed at the thought that these people could see me. Well last night this came to a head and I ended up in tears. Anxiety It started …

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What’s new with A Submissive Wife? HRT, Munches and more.

So, it’s been a while, and I thought it was about time to do an update, and tell you what’s new. In many ways not much has changed since my last post, but there have been some. Now, I warn you these are not big changes, we are not fucking like horny teenagers, or living a D/s fiction fantasy, no we are just living our lives as best we can. Starting HRT. First of all, following a few discussions with my GP, I have started …

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Life Lessons – how to make sure you get what you want.

I don’t believe we ever really stop learning. Even something as simple as the words to a new song or the name of someone we have just met, our minds have an amazing capacity to learn, so why do many of us make the same mistakes over and over again? Why are life lessons so different and often painful in their teaching? I think it is because they more often than not involve our emotions. I am definitely not going to profess to be an …

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Why we are happy being monogamous

There are many articles out there that argue monogamy is an unnatural state, and that this is why many relationships fail. I believe that in many cases the relationships fail because the couple didn’t communicate their needs, and work on being together, instead they use these arguments as reasons for cheating on their partners. Now I make no secret of the fact Mr H and I are monogamous. I’ve written about it before in ‘A Dirty Word‘ and explored the nightmares that non-monogamy gives me …

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How to keep your mind from going mad

In this new lockdown, as with others, one of the things I see most on social media is how bored people are, going mad, stir crazy, locked up in their homes with their families. I find this saddening and fascinating at the same time. We spend so much time busy with our lives, running here and there, how many of us actually spend time truly together? So many couples reach retirement only to find they do not know each other any more. But I digress …

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Real love, lockdown and being cared for.

Well hello 2021. Mr. H and I saw in the new year the way we always do, in bed, sleeping. Real Love. That’s what we have, real love. Not fancy, not glamorous. Just real. The UK is locked down again. Not surprising for most of us and yet despite all the restrictions and warnings from the NHS that it is overwhelmed there were still people selfish enough to protest outside a leading hospital, without masks or following social distancing rules, saying covid is a hoax. …

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How to cope when your D/s becomes D/s Less

2020 has kicked our D/s Asses. My chronic pain and all the side effects of that have brought our D/s activities to a resolute stop and it has not only highlighted how much we enjoy them, but how they have become part of our normal lives. D/s, D’not. We used to partake 2 cane sessions each week – Wednesdays and Sundays. As I have lost some of the feeling in my derriere it is no longer safe to do this activity. All D/s activities are …

How to stay positive when life sucks

I think it is fair to say for many people right now life kinda sucks. We are unable to enjoy the freedoms we did in order to ensure the NHS can cope with the number of people that are unwell, and to protect as many vulnerable people as possible. Covid 19 will, I think, be remembered the way we remember the black death and the Spanish Flu, and I for one hope that I do not lose and friends or family to it (touch wood). …

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7th August 2019: Disloyalty

I am part of an amazing online community called The SafeworD/s Club, and they have regular chat nights when we discuss various topics. The chat this Tuesday was Anal play. I started by saying this is something that I do enjoy butt (see what I did there? Haha) it isn’t something we do and so I didn’t know how much I would be able to contribute. Submissy the hostess of the club asked I thought you liked it? And she’s quite right I do, but …