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BDSM social events and us – a fun evening out.

I haven’t written in a while, I know, and in some ways that’s because I haven’t felt like I have had anything to actually write about. Our youngest son has now left home and we thought this might give us more freedom to explore our BDSM interests, which in theory it does, but with neighbours and thin walls we haven’t been able to take spanking (or impact play in general) at home any further which is a shame as we both really enjoyed the last …

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Do you love having bruises when you have been spanked?

A long time ago, I wrote a post in which I said I wasn’t a masochist and Mr H wasn’t a sadist. I’m here to say I think I need to amend that statement. Well and truly Spanked You may remember my recent post ‘A Wonderful Surprise Spanking for Sweetgirl’, in which I described my first ever hard core (by my standards) hand spanking. If you missed it go read it quick – I’ll wait….. Well my backside bruised up. I remember saying once that …

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A wonderful surprise Spanking for Sweetgirl

I’m here again talking about spanking, you would have thought I would have something different to talk about right? I mean we are alone. In fact we will be alone until Boxing day as the kids plans have changed and they are not coming home before Christmas. This will be the first Christmas we have been without Children ever. When Mr H and I met, T was a few months away from being three years old, and J arrived 3 years later. Mr H moved …

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Letting His sadist out: A hard hand spanking.

A hand spanking has to be one of the most intimate methods of impact play in BDSM. Not only does the submissive feel it, but so does the dominant. Both Mr H and I like this method but the opportunity to do it doesn’t present itself often. If J is home a hand spanking is too loud – and although the odd swot may be indulged in it isn’t a spanking. A while ago we agreed Mr H would spank me as hard as he …

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History is a great teacher: Remembering the good times.

History is a great teacher, and when we went to the Munch on Tuesday night the drive there and back gave us an opportunity to talk. We chatted about everyday things on the way there but on the way home we began to talk more intimately. We had talked a lot during the evening about our past history and it brought up some very good memories. Actually, before I go on, I need to go back. If you read my last post you’ll know that …

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Is Now a Good Time to Talk?

Well apparently, half past six (in the morning) is not a good time to talk but that is what happened. It all started innocent enough, I was telling Mr H about the chat on The Safewords Club the night before (it was about feeling submissive) and as I went through the various discussions we ended up taking about our situation too. What situation? The last few months our D/s has floundered a little. Or more to the point we are struggling to get back our …

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Why we are happy being monogamous

There are many articles out there that argue monogamy is an unnatural state, and that this is why many relationships fail. I believe that in many cases the relationships fail because the couple didn’t communicate their needs, and work on being together, instead they use these arguments as reasons for cheating on their partners. Now I make no secret of the fact Mr H and I are monogamous. I’ve written about it before in ‘A Dirty Word‘ and explored the nightmares that non-monogamy gives me …

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Why it’s important to have safewords

Safewords. You hear a lot about them when you first start out in BDSM and they get a cursory mention in 50 Shades, but are they really necessary? What if you are a married couple like Mr H and I? Surely there’s no need? Well I am here to tell you that in my opinion they are essential, even in vanilla relationships, and it comes down to a simple concept, CONSENT. Consent can be withdrawn at any time by anyone. We have always told our …

Return of the cane: how pain tolerance changes over time.

In my last post I wrote how our D/s was somewhat diminished by our my present condition, and how our impact play had stopped altogether. Well – I have news! The cane is back. I think I am going to get the cane out. Mr H announced this when I asked him what he wanted to do yesterday (Sunday) while our son was at work. I expected him to say rope work as he has been practicing a hand/arm tie that ML Slave Puppet had …

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Taken Prisoner by pain.

I haven’t written much lately. My heart, and head have not been in it. I have now spent over 7 months lied in bed staring at the bedroom walls and it is starting to weigh me down. 16 months in excruciating pain and I don’t feel sexy or attractive, so writing about that would be difficult. Inactivity and some poor eating habits have also caused weight gain that has me avoiding mirrors again. 99% of my clothes do not fit. I have 3 nighties, 3 …