Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
It’s been 3 days now since Mr H decided to issue me with new rules. They seem simple enough as for the most part they are about me taking care of myself (exercise and diet), making sure I don’t spend too much money (no eBay or Amazon purchases without permission), and, dressing in a way that makes Mr H happy (matching underwear or no knickers). Well so far so good. I’ve eaten inline with the Slimming World rules, I’ve completed my exercise, worn my matching …
I am experiencing sub-drop and Mr H is taking good care of me. He is always my protector, looking out for me, and taking care of me, so after our hotel stay we knew sub drop would be a possibility and have been watchful for it to hit. One of my favourite articles on sub-drop by Jennifer Bene, for anyone who reads this who has never experienced it I urge you to read this regardless of if you are a Dom(me) or sub. Each person …
We are going away in a few days, for an overnight hotel stay. These breaks are not just great fun but an opportunity to relax and play in a way we are unable to do at home because of our adult children. They provide an opportunity to recharge our dynamic and my submissive mindset. Hello my Sweetgirl, As we are a day away from our alone time I thought I would send you your instructions. My plan for Saturday will be based around the following …
We’re back home and we’re both feeling tired. I’m laid at his side on the sofa, he has his arms around me. I’m so mellow at the moment and yet high at the same time, I’m probably not making much sense. Or maybe you understand completely. I imagine coming down won’t be as nice! Laid here quiet and relaxed my mind is drifting over the events of the last few days, reflecting on the details. After any play session, especially if you have experimented with …
On Saturday Mr H and I are going to our favourite hotel for a night away. He wrote me an email to tell me his plans. Something he’s not done before, well obviously he’s sent me emails, but not like this one. The email contains an itinerary, and I’m pretty sure he’s done this because he knows I’ve been freaking out a bit, so here’s how my Saturday is looking: MrH will take photos I will masterbate for MrH I will be spanked as a …
There are times when I feel like I ‘need’ Mr H to push me into feeling submissive. This usually coincides with times when our bedroom play has been limited. I lose the close connection to Mr H, instead I feel distant and disconnected as if I am protecting myself from a perceived or expected hurt. Background: Our children are not children anymore at 24 and 19 (sorry for those followers who already know that) and Mr H and I have no intention of them being …
This morning I got my journal out and looked back over some of my early posts. One of the things I noticed most was the emotional turmoil I experienced in those early weeks, and how we dealt with it, or more to the point how we struggled to deal with it. The rollercoaster of emotions took us by surprise and we didn’t communicate enough. Emotional rollercoaster. Suddenly I needed contact with Mr H. I needed to be near him, even following him around the house. …
During a light hearted online group discussion yesterday I typed ‘rolls eyes’ in response to a comment by one of the Dom’s (who from here on I will refer to as MrX because using Dom all the time reads quite aggressively). Now MrX is aware that Mr H has forbidden eye rolling at him, as it is disrespectful. MrX commented that he would inform Mr H of my eye rolling. Before I go any further [insert Meatloaf song 😂 ] I want to make it …
I have this bad habit of questioning Mr H’s decisions. Not during a scene – but in our everyday lives, and in doing so I am challenging his authority over and over again. Let me give you an example.. Challenging Authority On Monday it was frosty and we have 1 car (2 motorbikes) and Mr H tends to ride to work. When it’s frosty we leave the bikes at home and I drop Mr H at work (he starts before me). So on Sunday he …
Yesterday I spent all day trying to find the courage to ask Mr H, my Dominant, to help me with a bad habit I have formed. My ability to speak openly and honestly is, I think, improving but I do still struggle with the idea that I am ‘being silly, being a bother’ etc and I often end up upset. Asking your Dominant for help I’ve found that recently I’m waking up during the night and, because of some early childhood conditioning, I invariably end …