Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
I don’t really have lists of what I want to do, I gave up on them after my dad died. What is the point of making lists and plans when they can be taken from you at the drop of a hat? So I can’t really do a bucket list. I believe if you want to do something bad enough don’t ever wait, you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. Instead I am going to do a wish list. Living for Right Now Does that mean I never …
Punishment or Discipline? In the world of BDSM, the ‘D’ can mean Discipline or Dominance. We don’t really explore the full scope of BDSM, because I am not a huge fan of pain. I do not want bruises or to bleed as some people who are masochistic do; and I don’t believe that MrH would want me bruised and bloodied. We exist more in the BD (Bondage & Discipline) and the DS (Dominance & Submission) range. While we explore bondage, (I love being tied up), …
Within a D/s relationship with a power exchange like ours, control is just an illusion. We have agreed rules and boundaries; Mr H works within those boundaries. To the outside world, it looks like Mr H has all the power because he makes the decisions. And, that is where the illusion lies, because I have the power to veto anything I don’t want to do by using a safeword, or by calling the whole agreement off. It begins with a conversation. When we started our …
Pressing the vibrator against her needy sex, she allowed her eyes to close and her head relaxed against the pillows. She needed to come, the oral attention she had shown him this morning had left her horny and tense. Even though their play had ended with him fucking her, hard, she hadn’t climaxed, and that was ok. She loved being used, it formed part of their dynamic, but the last few play times she had experienced some intense but superficial orgasms, the kind that flashed …
The food for thought prompt this week is one book. Choose one book…. And, for me that is simply impossible! I have so many books that at one time I had a database to keep track of them. I am a very fast reader. I mean really fast. I read a 250 page book in about one and a half hours, so when I went to the library I would take out 10 books to last 1 week (bearing in mind I only read on …
I am spoiled in many ways. MrH would give me anything I wanted if he could, if time and money were no object I might add, but in all honesty I think I am happy with very little. I don’t crave those usual indulgences, like expensive jewelry or perfumes. I like little things. A Little Treat I like chocolate. Nice dark chocolate. My favourite is Lindt Excellence Caramel with a touch of salt, or Dark Mint. These I see as an indulgence because it’s usually £2 …
When we entered into a D/s relationship, MrH and I talked about our fantasies and it opened up a whole world of sexual play that had been previously unexplored. In our early years I purchased a number of traditional dress up items. A French Maids outfit and a PVC dress were worn with stockings to great effect and MrH’s delight, but having worn them once, having seen them once, MrH would always decline when I asked if he wished me to wear them again. I …
Not the food, the singer. I love a power ballad, and Meatloaf is very good at them. Of course “I would do anything for Love- but I won’t do that” is the song most people think of when you say Meatloaf, in fact I read somewhere (probably twitter) that Meatloaf is the perfect safeword – cos it means you will do anything but not that.. but I digress. I do love that song but I have always preferred “I’d lie for you (and that’s the …
Training is something that is definitely prevalent in D/s fiction and I admit to enjoying the Brie series of books by Red Phoenix which chronicles Brie’s journey through a submissive training school. I have no problem with training in fiction, however, I do have some issues with the concept of training in real life. Why would one person wish to fundamentally change another? I asked MrH to add D/s to our relationship we came to a mutual agreement about the way that would be put …
A reset is used to draw a line under a period of time and start fresh. In terms of our D/s this usually means a lapse in following the rules, and / or a drop in mind sets. With the recent health challenges we were in need of a reset and Mr H used our go to method, a spanking, to achieve it. Resets. I had shifted myself to stretch my back a little and I was on my hands and elbows and my behind …