Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
“You know, I’ve never told anyone this Claire, but, I loved a woman once. I first saw Jenny at a tea dance in the community centre. It was a cold night, I remember that, and when she walked in she was wrapped up in a coat with a woollen hat on. I watched her go into the cloak room and when she immerged she took my breath away. Her red hair fell in soft curls around her face and her smile as she scanned the …
The Oxford English Dictionary defines discipline as “the practice of training people to obey rules and orders and punishing them if they do not; the controlled behavior or situation that results from this training”. A few weeks ago we discussed punishment, but how does discipline fit into a D/s dynamic? Setting the rules. When we began our D/s journey I didn’t have any specific rules to follow. In fact when the first rule was created in was following a plea from myself to help me …
Everybody lies. There it is, plain and simple. I doubt there is a person alive who has NEVER told a lie, because I believe truth is in the eye of the beholder. I am certainly no saint when it comes to telling porkies, I told my boys Santa was real, and that they had the ‘real’ Buzz Lightyear toy. I told my share to Mr H too although this has reduced significantly since we introduced D/s to our relationship. The thing is, why did that …
CharlieX started a blog series Photography 101 a little while ago and it inspired me to look out our ‘proper camera’ in order to have a go. Unfortunately it transpires our old Kodak 2MP digital camera (purchased in 2005) had decided to send itself to camera heaven. Disheartened, because I do love taking pictures, I mentioned this passing to my Aunt and she has treated me to a new one. Given my inexperience, especially in light of the changes in technology when it comes to …
When our relationship first came to include BDSM, I imagined every single possible moment would be filled with sex. I wouldn’t be able to move without Mr H thrusting a hard cock into me and telling me what how he was proud of me, and how he loved I was always ready for him. Of course I was not realising that the truth of the dynamic I asked for, being submissive to Mr H, meant accepting he would be the Dominant. He would be in …
I have spent the last few weeks reviewing all the content that I have imported from sweetgirlsjournal, and in many cases deleting content that either does not fit or is (well there is no other way to describe it) crap. You learn alot in the first 12 months after starting a blog and some of it you can’t learn any other way than by doing it. The mistakes you make are an important part of that creative process, learning who you are as a writer, …
For over 22 years Mr H and I were a vanilla couple. Our sex life was lovely, sensual and tender. I would occasionally orgasm, although this was more often than not from masturbation. It didn’t bother me that I didn’t climax every time we made love, I thought this was the normal state of affairs. It was more important to me that Mr H loved me and stood with me. I took pleasure from knowing he enjoyed sex and that I could please him, it …
Music has the power to transport us to the past, and bring back memories, some good and some bad. I grew up with the songs of Madonna, Bon Jovi, Meatloaf, Abba and Fleetwood Mac, and so it is no surprise the songs of these artists can be used to track the journey of my life. Early Memories. Chiquitita by Abba, always brings back memories of Saturday afternoons spent with my aunt and Dad. After my parents divorced, every Saturday I was collected by my Dad …
The Disney film The Little Mermaid has always been one of my favourites and I believe they are planning to release a live action version of it, as they have done with Beauty and the Beast, Aladin, and Cinderella. I have enjoyed each of these adaptations and I will watch the Little Mermaid to see if they have done it justice. This week the Tie Me Up tie is the mermaid tie, and I asked Mr H if we could do it as I thought …
In my opinion libido is a delicate thing, which can be influenced by many different things. For example, medication, particularly antidepressants, can reduce libido, menopause (both male and female) and depression can cause the loss of libido. Libido is defined as sexual desire by the Oxford Dictionary, and so another way to describe it would be loss of desire. I have written recently about my own reduced libido and difficulty reaching orgasm, which I have concluded to be from the medication I was taking at …