Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
“If you were in these arms..” Bon Jovi’s voice sings as Mr H pulls my body against his; his arms securing me to him possessively, protectively, and he whispers in my ear “I love you, I’ll please you, I tell you that I’ll never leave you.” Ok so there is come artistic licence in there, but I appreciate his effort. He knows how I am struggling again with the nightmares, and when he hugs me to him like this it always settles any anxiety I …
This week Wicked Wednesday is asking ‘what keeps you going? What do you believe in? I believe in me and I believe in Mr H. But mostly it is Hope. Hope keeps me going. I hope that my boys will find their way, hope that my back pain will one day be if not gone all together, be reduced enough that I can live a normal life, and hope that someday we will all exist without the need to hurt each other. I believe in …
Codependency is often seen as a negative thing, where one person enables another to bad behaviour or habits, and there is definitely evidence to support this. But I believe that it is possible for codependence to be something positive too. There is a tendency to take a word and give it just one meaning, to reject any other interpretation in favour of it. Submissy has written a brilliant post on how to spot the things that would mean your relationship is unhealthy, and I urge …
What is Love? What is Romance? Two questions that defy a simple answer for every single person has their own concept of them. How I define them would be entirely different to how you do, because they are subjective things. So, with that in mind, I can only really try to explain what they mean to me. Is this Love? Somewhere near the beginning of a new relationship I think we all ask ourselves this question, is this love? Song writers have certainly been able …
When I saw the prompt for Wicked Wednesday I knew exactly what to write in order to answer the question, “who helps you to be the better version of yourself, only because they are in your life? Who strengthens you, motivates you, supports you, knows you like no one else?” The answer for me is quite simple, Mr H. He makes me. From the moment he came into my life in 1995 he changed my world. I fell head over heels in love although it …
I am a little pervert, I will admit that. Whenever I can I sneak a peek at Mr H’s body; when he gets dressed or undressed, when he is in bed. I wake up on and off during the night, because of the pain and when I get back in bed I will reach out for him. Touching him relaxes me, even if it is just his arm. Sometimes I will peek under the covers at his bottom and last night I took a couple …
Bestvibe contacted me via Twitter and asked me if I did sponsored posts. I replied that I had not but I was willing to do a product review. They asked me to select an item from their site. I did want to review a remote controlled wearable vibrator as MrH and I have talked about this for a while. Although we do have some their range is limited and one with a phone app would be much more fun. MrH wants to be able to …
I don’t really have lists of what I want to do, I gave up on them after my dad died. What is the point of making lists and plans when they can be taken from you at the drop of a hat? So I can’t really do a bucket list. I believe if you want to do something bad enough don’t ever wait, you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. Instead I am going to do a wish list. Living for Right Now Does that mean I never …
I am spoiled in many ways. MrH would give me anything I wanted if he could, if time and money were no object I might add, but in all honesty I think I am happy with very little. I don’t crave those usual indulgences, like expensive jewelry or perfumes. I like little things. A Little Treat I like chocolate. Nice dark chocolate. My favourite is Lindt Excellence Caramel with a touch of salt, or Dark Mint. These I see as an indulgence because it’s usually £2 …
Not the food, the singer. I love a power ballad, and Meatloaf is very good at them. Of course “I would do anything for Love- but I won’t do that” is the song most people think of when you say Meatloaf, in fact I read somewhere (probably twitter) that Meatloaf is the perfect safeword – cos it means you will do anything but not that.. but I digress. I do love that song but I have always preferred “I’d lie for you (and that’s the …