Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Consent in D/s relationships is essential. When a couple first begins this type of relationship it begins with communication. Communicating their interests and desires, their likes and dislikes, what they are willing to try and what they are not; consent is formed through these discussions. When Mr H and I began this journey I asked him to consider ‘doing that’ to me. The ‘that’ I referred to was a scene from Fifty Shades of Gray, in all honesty I forget which one, but the point …
In my last post Rescue Me I said I had wanted to ask Mr H to spank me 10 times as hard as he could but I chickened out. Of course putting it in my post meant I could bring it up for discussion, without saying it out loud (a tactic I use when I am particularly embarrassed or ashamed of my requests). When we did discuss it, Mr H responded that he just wasn’t sure. Then later, after his bath, he asked “So, you …
Our plans for this week originally began with 2 nights away at our favourite hotel. Those two nights would have been filled with sex and rope and impact play. We would have dined in the restaurant, loved each other and laughed in a bubble. Instead we moved T and J into their new home and the hotel has been cancelled. Best laid plans. We focused on the following week. Making plans to get our playroom set up and painted. We could play and have a …
Red is the colour of my beautiful shoes. Red, (and black of course), are the colours of my new anniversary lingerie set, and the set in the featured image. Red is for passion and danger, so it fits that it is used as a safeword by many practitioners of BDSM. Red. My final safeword. The stop word. I think I’ve used it, two or three times. I tend to use yellow, which signals that I am nearing my limit more often than not. This is …
It isn’t often Mr H tells me to give him a blow job but it is something I find highly enjoyable. I think my favourite way is when he kneels me in front of him and as well as allowing me to pleasure him, he can also take charge and use my mouth to fuck me. There’s something, don’t ask me what, that really turns me on, when I kneel in front of him. Having his cock my my mouth too is awesome, ticks another …
Early in our D/s MrH made me a night collar out of paracord. I love it. I love that he made it and now he has made me a new purple collar. My first day chain wasn’t suitable to sleep or play in so I wanted something suitable for these occasions. MrH is skilled at making things out of paracord and so I asked if he could make me a collar to sleep in and he did. My first collar, was made in just a …
The latest prompt from the Tell Me About meme by The Safewords Club, is Rituals. I’ve written about this subject a few times and you can read them via the links at the bottom of the post. Fair warning there may be some repetition but I will do my best not to do it too much! So, without further blathering, let’s get to it, and talk about Rituals! The Oxford English Dictionary says that this word originates in the 16th century (at least as an …
MrH has been at work today and my sciatic nerves have decided to firmly Express how unhappy they are that I walked so far last Saturday. I’m in a lot of new pain and I can’t take any more pain meds, you know, cos I already rattle! MrH knew how I was feeling and decided to use the butt plug to distract me. I received a message: Go and put the butt plug in, the one with the jewel in. Mr H, via Whatsaap on …
There is one thing that truly frightens me, an incomprehensible paralyzing fear, and that is that Mr H will leave me.There have been many things (fears) in my life that have given me sleepless nights. Some have passed with time, some rear their heads time and again. Spiders It’s a cliche right? To be frightened by spiders… I mean in a silly, heart pounding, panic sort of way. Once I see the thing I can’t take my eyes off it, because the only thing more …
A wank bank refers to a selection of images that are regularly used for visual stimuli during masterbation. Mr H often refers to some of the pictures we take as being ‘one for the wank bank’ which never fails to make me smile. I mean who wouldn’t be happy to know that their husband finds them to be arousing and sexy? The following is a conversation that happened a few days ago between Mr H and myself, which resulted in one such picture. One for …