Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Training is something that is definitely prevalent in D/s fiction and I admit to enjoying the Brie series of books by Red Phoenix which chronicles Brie’s journey through a submissive training school. I have no problem with training in fiction, however, I do have some issues with the concept of training in real life. Why would one person wish to fundamentally change another? I asked MrH to add D/s to our relationship we came to a mutual agreement about the way that would be put …
There is a difference between the words ‘might’ and ‘will’ but my brain has trouble with this. No, I’m serious and I bet I am not the only one… Let me give you an example. On Thursday night MrH said his tummy hurt and I asked if he wanted something to ease it. He said he did not and I responded with “OK” and dropped it. Normally I would have followed up with an “are you sure?” but I did not. As a result he …
I have written about this topic before, and how I mentally justified faking it for many years. In reality it still bothers me that I did this. I don’t like that I did it and I don’t like ‘why’ I did it. I don’t fake it now, I am sure that many women say that, don’t they? I faked it with other partners but not with you dear.. Anyway, I digress. There are times when Mr H will ask me to cum for him and I …
A reset is used to draw a line under a period of time and start fresh. In terms of our D/s this usually means a lapse in following the rules, and / or a drop in mind sets. With the recent health challenges we were in need of a reset and Mr H used our go to method, a spanking, to achieve it. Resets. I had shifted myself to stretch my back a little and I was on my hands and elbows and my behind …
I have written before about how I struggle when Mr H has to work on a Saturday, how I get anxious to an, in all honestly unhealthy level and if you follow my blog you will know Mr H has been in hospital this week. He isn’t home yet, but hopefully he is home today. I have coped emotionally, my anxiety has been normal and healthy, focused on Mr H and stay in hospital and him getting better. What I don’t like is how much …
I am not a fan of secrets. I don’t like having to censor myself or think before I speak. Our D/s isn’t common knowledge and so when I am among the people who do not know, I have to be cautious. Sometimes I find it hard to keep it secret, sometimes I don’t want to, but I do because I know MrH wants it to remain private. At heart I prefer being honest, I dislike duplicity. I’d rather not know something if I can’t share …
Mr H is in hospital, he has kidney stones causing problems again. They have been causing problems for a few days and today it got too much. He came home from work, and phoned me. Several times. I had my phone on silent. It’s only my second day at my new job and I always have my phone on silent. In the end he phoned the office, to ask me to drive him to the hospital. I couldn’t stay with him, for one because he …
This song has had a lot of coverage in the last couple of years. After the Manchester Arena bombing it was sung over and over in tribute to those who died and as a reminder that the people of Manchester would not be beaten by acts of terrorism. It isn’t really a favourite of mine. I haven’t really been an oasis fan ever but when I saw this weeks prompt for food4thought I wasn’t sure what to write and this this morning as I was …
My dear friend and fellow submissive wife Submissy wrote an excellent post about what constitutes a scene and where the terminology comes from, and so I don’t want to repeat the same information, she expresses this so well I would prefer to direct you to her post. Instead I am going to focus on my experiences of scenes with Mr H. Our time constraints mean our scenes do not last for hours at a time, in fact I’ve never timed them so I couldn’t say …
With the crutches being used again to help me get about, Mr H has been opening doors and closing them, when we have had to go out. As he pointed out, I’ve been wanting him to open and close the car doors like this for a while, so I’m enjoying it immensely. I wait in the car for him to walk around and open the door. He offers me his hand and helps me out. I’d like to say it looks elegant but the reality …