Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Training is something that is definitely prevalent in D/s fiction and I admit to enjoying the Brie series of books by Red Phoenix which chronicles Brie’s journey through a submissive training school. I have no problem with training in fiction, however, I do have some issues with the concept of training in real life. Why would one person wish to fundamentally change another? I asked MrH to add D/s to our relationship we came to a mutual agreement about the way that would be put …
There is a difference between the words ‘might’ and ‘will’ but my brain has trouble with this. No, I’m serious and I bet I am not the only one… Let me give you an example. On Thursday night MrH said his tummy hurt and I asked if he wanted something to ease it. He said he did not and I responded with “OK” and dropped it. Normally I would have followed up with an “are you sure?” but I did not. As a result he …
I have written about this topic before, and how I mentally justified faking it for many years. In reality it still bothers me that I did this. I don’t like that I did it and I don’t like ‘why’ I did it.  I don’t fake it now, I am sure that many women say that, don’t they? I faked it with other partners but not with you dear.. Anyway, I digress. There are times when Mr H will ask me to cum for him and I …
A reset is used to draw a line under a period of time and start fresh. In terms of our D/s this usually means a lapse in following the rules, and / or a drop in mind sets. With the recent health challenges we were in need of a reset and Mr H used our go to method, a spanking, to achieve it. Resets. I had shifted myself to stretch my back a little and I was on my hands and elbows and my behind …
I am not a fan of secrets. I don’t like having to censor myself or think before I speak. Our D/s isn’t common knowledge and so when I am among the people who do not know, I have to be cautious. Sometimes I find it hard to keep it secret, sometimes I don’t want to, but I do because I know MrH wants it to remain private. At heart I prefer being honest, I dislike duplicity. I’d rather not know something if I can’t share …
My dear friend and fellow submissive wife Submissy wrote an excellent post about what constitutes a scene and where the terminology comes from, and so I don’t want to repeat the same information, she expresses this so well I would prefer to direct you to her post. Instead I am going to focus on my experiences of scenes with Mr H. Our time constraints mean our scenes do not last for hours at a time, in fact I’ve never timed them so I couldn’t say …
Did you read or watch 50 shades and think that’s hot? Has your husband patted you on the bottom and you thought I would like more of that? Let me tell you now, in real life being a submissive wife (or partner) is not like the books or movies, it is much, much better. Most of the couples I have interacted with all seem to start the same way, the potential submissive wife has broached the subject with their partner. You can read about the …
“I think it’s time you sucked my penis” MrH said. He had turned the TV off and was laid naked on the bed. I moved towards him and paused I did want to suck his cock but I was still wearing my day collar. “Are you going to do my collar first?” I asked. “I think you should do as you’re told,” he replied firmly, “and suck my penis.” Dominance I moved to a comfortable position, I fidgeted a little. I was taken back, he …
The Fifty Shades trilogy did a lot to bring kink into the mainstream media and probably into a significant amount of relationships too. I have read the first book and yes the kink scenes were delightful and turned me on, but I actually found it a dreadful book to read. I started to read the second book and gave up. Most people are aware that it started life as Fan Fiction; E L James is a huge fan of Twilight, but the similarities between the …
I feel like there hasn’t been much sex in my blog lately. Well I know there hasn’t. Our fabulous life that I imagined when the children had flown the nest hasn’t materialised yet, in fact, our dynamic feels like it is in need of a kick up the arse. In many ways I have not felt this distant from myself, my submission and Mr H in quite some time. Play time. We haven’t had a good reset in Months. One thing or another has meant …