update on our rope work

Hotel break and other things – a little update.

I haven’t written much in the last few days, I haven’t had time. We have had a rather busy time and I have either been asleep or sewing but now things have calmed down I can update you all on what we have been up to. Christmas Creating. Some of you may recall I am quite crafty – not like sneaky but in making things. Knitting, crochet and sewing. The last 12 months has seen that develop a little and while I wouldn’t say I …

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Life Lessons – how to make sure you get what you want.

I don’t believe we ever really stop learning. Even something as simple as the words to a new song or the name of someone we have just met, our minds have an amazing capacity to learn, so why do many of us make the same mistakes over and over again? Why are life lessons so different and often painful in their teaching? I think it is because they more often than not involve our emotions. I am definitely not going to profess to be an …

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The Ugly Truth

Everybody lies. There it is, plain and simple. I doubt there is a person alive who has NEVER told a lie, because I believe truth is in the eye of the beholder. I am certainly no saint when it comes to telling porkies, I told my boys Santa was real, and that they had the ‘real’ Buzz Lightyear toy. I told my share to Mr H too although this has reduced significantly since we introduced D/s to our relationship. The thing is, why did that …

Simply Pleasure.

For over 22 years Mr H and I were a vanilla couple. Our sex life was lovely, sensual and tender. I would occasionally orgasm, although this was more often than not from masturbation. It didn’t bother me that I didn’t climax every time we made love, I thought this was the normal state of affairs. It was more important to me that Mr H loved me and stood with me. I took pleasure from knowing he enjoyed sex and that I could please him, it …

Yeah, Yeah Yeassss

On Sunday’s S2 works and we get a few hours home alone. We have been using this time to have some alone time (if you know what I mean- nudge nudge, wink wink) but I have chosen not to share the details recently. I know that seems odd given that my blog is a sex blog, but things have been a little off and I didn’t want to talk about it. Not off with us and our relationship, rather my orgasms have been difficult to …

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I want you to fuck my ass

“I want you to fuck my ass,” was one of the first dirty things I asked Mr H for, if you don’t count spanking or asking him to be my Dominant.  It was also one of the hardest things I have asked for.  In fact asking him to do things to me is something I find really, really hard. But why? This is something I ask myself time and time again.  Why, why, why?  The thing is, I really don’t know.  Why can’t I just say …

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Glass Dildo and Latex Gloves

While S2 was at work on Boxing Day, we took the opportunity to play.  I thought we would not be playing until the evening when S2 went out with friends and so mentally I was prepared for that.  When MrH put got two glass dildos out and the doxy I wasn’t prepared.  In fact I worried that my mind was not going to play well. He pointed at the door “Go for a wee.” He said.  It wasn’t a suggestion it was clearly an order …

Bestvibe Double Head Mini Wand Review

Bestvibe contacted me via Twitter and asked me if I did sponsored posts.  I replied that I had not but I was willing to do a product review.  They asked me to select an item from their site.  I did want to review a remote controlled wearable vibrator as MrH and I have talked about this for a while.  Although we do have some their range is limited and one with a phone app would be much more fun.  MrH wants to be able to …

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Tell Me About: Fantasies

When we entered into a D/s relationship, MrH and I talked about our fantasies and it opened up a whole world of sexual play that had been previously unexplored.   In our early years I purchased a number of traditional dress up items.  A French Maids outfit and a PVC dress were worn with stockings to great effect and MrH’s delight, but having worn them once, having seen them once, MrH would always decline when I asked if he wished me to wear them again.  I …

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You don’t want me to stop do you?

MrH got the Doxy out, and I got out of bed and went to the loo.  It’s not sexy I know but I always pee before sex, (real life right?!) and part of my worry over squirting is that although I have read the studies that say it’s not pee and I know it doesn’t smell like pee, it still a worry, so I figure if my bladder is empty then it’s not pee and I can relax. At least that’s the theory.  So, on …