Over the last 2 years our rituals have changed quite a bit, although the format has remained the same the words and actions have changed to suit our needs at the time. In the beginning, for our morning and night collar exchange I would always be kneeling. This collar exchange is our most ritualistic activity. Every now and then Mr H would tell me to stay standing so he didn’t have to bend down. This became more frequent until eventually the kneeling became a thing …
Tell Me About: The Power Exchange
The power exchange between Mr H and myself is at the core of what we do. When we started D/s and I asked Mr H to take control I didn’t realise how much it would change our lives. I definitely didn’t realise how much better our lives would become. What was it like before? Before, I tried to control every aspect of our lives. Where we went out to (when we went out). What we bought. When we had sex. The only thing in our …
Fuck Budgets
It’s not what you think… I saw this TEDx talk called ”the magic of not giving a fuck” and as well as making me laugh it made me think…. Sarah Knights talk is funny and more importantly it makes sense… So what’s the idea? It’s quite simple really, if you think about it, if you only have let’s say 7 fucks per week to spend on the things you do outside of working and sleeping how do you prioritise your spare time? Do you go to the after …
Communication
This weeks topic for Food for Thought Friday is communication, something I have written about many times before: Lost, 5th Feb 2019 Maintenance Wednesday’s, 14th Feb 2019 It’s good to talk, 22nd Feb 2019 Wednesday Night Chat, 17th April 2019 To name a few, although many of my posts reiterate constantly that communication is essential in D/s. From safewords to setting limits without honest communication any D/s relationship is likely to be on unsteady or unsafe ground. Practice what you preach Now I know I’ve …
Horny as Hell
I want him. I want him in me. I want him to fuck me – hard and fast and often. It feels lately as if we don’t play much anymore. In the early months, the frenzy months, we couldn’t get enough of each other. We exchanged dirty messages. I would come home from work and often I would be allowed to suck Sirs cock when he came in. The Frenzy Passed Then things calmed down a little and we fell into a routine. We generally had sex …
I want….
No, I need a fuck. I want to feel Sir deep inside me. Sometimes the need becomes so acute my whole body aches for him. My pussy feels empty (which of course it is!) but you know what I mean- right? MrH has been poorly so He hasn’t felt like playing. He hasn’t been able to breathe so he hasn’t kissed me. When we don’t play for a while I have one of two reactions. Either I get super horny or I disconnect. Sometimes I get …
Nerves
It’s 2pm and I’m sat waiting for MrH to say it’s time to go. Earlier today I got a sudden attack of nerves, almost panic. I didn’t know what to pack. I didn’t know what to expect. It feels like such a long time since we went away to this hotel and this is where MrH feels most relaxed and able to play. We stay in a suite of rooms. It’s our little spoil. We stay dinner, bed and breakfast (half board) and the food there …
Do you want to…
As we lay in bed this morning MrH asked me “do you want to touch my cock?” He asks, but honestly I don’t think I’ve ever said no even before D/s. He could have said “touch my cock” but he always seems to pose the question, giving me a choice- or maybe he gets a thrill from my saying yes. I rolled to him and starting with one hand stroked the length of him. Still semi erect from waking up I brought both hands together, …
Blogging from A2Z 2019: Marriage
I married Mr H on a beautiful sunny day in September 1999. It wasn’t the day we envisioned. My mother took over, his mother had her say too. If we could go back and do it again… we would elope. Whenever I asked Mr H his opinion he would say I don’t care, what ever you like. I thought that meant he didn’t care. It wasn’t that at all, he said, he was interested in marrying me, being married to me, the wedding was just one …
Everyday life
It feels like ages since I blogged and yet I know it’s not. At the moment I’m tired and I feel like I have nothing new or interesting to say. Our D/s is tripping along on an even keel. We are talking on Wednesday evenings. We have a cane session on a Sunday and a Wednesday evening too. I told MrH that I was not getting the same effect from the cane as I had got used to it and so he increased the impact a …