I’ve read a lot of literature, but the first time I encountered BDSM it was by accident. Apparently not everything Anne Rice writes is horror! I was in the library looking for a new horror book having just finished one of the vampire books and I picked up a book called ‘Beauty’s Punishment’ needless to say it was an eye opener. Reading it I found myself aroused, but at the same time I felt it was wrong to be… at 20 I had very little experience. Having been married briefly to a very inexperienced man who ultimately was unfaithful, when the relationship ended I had a young son, but I was very naive. I can honestly say at this time if you had said I would be asking my future husband to be my dominant I would have laughed at the idea.
Sweetgirls Journal dot com.
I decided to start this blog after reading the work of an amazing and inspiring Submissy and I hope that in time this blog will not only contain my thoughts and feelings but also be informative.
About us.
I met my now husband when I was 21, and our relationship has been great. Mr H is strong, caring and he loves me deeply. We have had periods where the passion has ebbed but we have remained strong together through our deep friendship and trust. He is my rock, my strength, my world. I would say I trust him completely but that would not be true. I have issues which I am sure I will talk about at some point, but as this is about our beginning I will leave it for now. At the time of writing this I have been a submissive wife for 5 months and I am loving it.
Mr H is everything to me and he has been since we met. I feel lost without him… as much as the independent woman within me screams that she doesn’t need a man! My heart knows the truth- that my world is better with him in it. Having said all that if you met us you would not think I had a submissive bone in my body.
The simple life.
There we were plodding along as most married couples do. Our routine was simple and our sex life was enjoyable and although I didn’t orgasm every time we made love I still enjoyed the experience. Mr H always wants to please me and so he does all the things that I like him to do. Well he does everything I have had the courage to tell him I want him to do.
We both work full time and to make matters more complex I have chronic back pain – I mean there have been times when I have been in too much pain to stand up. At the moment it’s controlled by a cocktail of pain medication and I’m relatively comfortable.
Introducing BDSM.
One sunny day Mr H and I were at the local hospital waiting to see my pain specialist… I’d taken my kindle and Mr H had also brought a book and we were passing the time reading. I started with a ‘Harry Potter’ book and got bored so started flicking through the other books I had. ‘50 shades of grey’ popped up and I opened it. It was at the end of a scene, the first BDSM scene in the story and I decided to share it with Mr H. I asked him to read from the beginning of the scene and when he had done so I said something like “I’d like it if we could do that”
I think I had my eyes on my knees because I felt awkward asking. Mr H is a gentle man and here I was asking him to spank me and tie me up. He just said “OK.”
In the car on the way home we talked more and he expressed his doubts that I would like being restrained as I don’t like being out of control. I just responded that we wouldn’t know til we tried.
Putting the theory to test.
I don’t recall talking about it again. That evening when we got in bed, Mr H pulled the covers down to the bottom of the bed. He took off my nighty. Placed my arms out wide in a v above head. Then took hold of my ankles and spread my legs. He took a blindfold and covered my eyes. I felt his breath on my neck as he leaned close and whispered “Don’t move”
From that moment I knew I was his submissive. It was the best night I had ever had (until then) and things have just got better.
That was how it began – how I became Sweetgirl and he became Mr H my Sir, and how we started our journey into BDSM as Dominant and submissive.
Joining a community.
The Safewords Club is a fantastic online community that we joined. I can’t recommend it enough to any D/s couple. It’s a place full of friendship, acceptance and a wealth of experience and knowledge. If you are new to D/s or BDSM or not click HERE and come meet the gang.
Sweetgirl x
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