Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
As the year and decade end approaches we are all prone to reflect back on our achievements and failures, and to look at how we have changed and grown in the intervening years. I think Mr H and I have come a long way together in the last ten years, and even further in the last 2. This year we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. We have been together for 24 years and I couldn’t be happier. Honestly. I am happier than I have ever …
On Friday, I was visited by a lovely lady, who came to see what adjustments could be made to our home, or equipment they would suggest, to make things easier for me around the house. She was really nice, sympathetic and kind. Even better she carries some equipment on her so after the assessment she left things with us. I wrote about the kind of things we hoped she would suggest in my post Opening Doors. So what did she suggest? Bathroom Equipment. The first piece …
The prompt for Wicked Wednesday is Naughty n’ Nice, and well I do love to be naughty! I would much rather be doing naughty things with MrH than muddling along as a plain Jane; which is how I used to see myself. I decided to make this post a little different, and include a short story for your entertainment (and to give Mr H play material). Stepping into the Light For years I hid in the shadows, I didn’t want to stand out. I didn’t …
Bestvibe contacted me via Twitter and asked me if I did sponsored posts. I replied that I had not but I was willing to do a product review. They asked me to select an item from their site. I did want to review a remote controlled wearable vibrator as MrH and I have talked about this for a while. Although we do have some their range is limited and one with a phone app would be much more fun. MrH wants to be able to …
My new employer invited MrH and I to go on the Christmas Party. It was at a local venue, and as I didn’t have to go into work the next day, we decided to go. It was an opportunity for us to go out together and get dressed up. Something we haven’t done in months, with one thing and another. Making and Effort for Each Other. Being able to dress up and look pretty is something I like doing, because I want MrH to be …
It’s Friday Night and J has gone to work, MrH dropped him off and we are alone until 10pm. MrH plans to play, if the kiss he gave me earlier is anything to go by. My body had responded to that kiss like a horny wanton slut. Tea was cooked and eaten when MrH came into the room with a handful of black and said “when you have showered, shaved and so on, you are required to wear these.” Instructions. I can’t lie, my body …
I don’t really have lists of what I want to do, I gave up on them after my dad died. What is the point of making lists and plans when they can be taken from you at the drop of a hat? So I can’t really do a bucket list. I believe if you want to do something bad enough don’t ever wait, you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. Instead I am going to do a wish list. Living for Right Now Does that mean I never …
Punishment or Discipline? In the world of BDSM, the ‘D’ can mean Discipline or Dominance. We don’t really explore the full scope of BDSM, because I am not a huge fan of pain. I do not want bruises or to bleed as some people who are masochistic do; and I don’t believe that MrH would want me bruised and bloodied. We exist more in the BD (Bondage & Discipline) and the DS (Dominance & Submission) range. While we explore bondage, (I love being tied up), …
Within a D/s relationship with a power exchange like ours, control is just an illusion. We have agreed rules and boundaries; Mr H works within those boundaries. To the outside world, it looks like Mr H has all the power because he makes the decisions. And, that is where the illusion lies, because I have the power to veto anything I don’t want to do by using a safeword, or by calling the whole agreement off. It begins with a conversation. When we started our …
Pressing the vibrator against her needy sex, she allowed her eyes to close and her head relaxed against the pillows. She needed to come, the oral attention she had shown him this morning had left her horny and tense. Even though their play had ended with him fucking her, hard, she hadn’t climaxed, and that was ok. She loved being used, it formed part of their dynamic, but the last few play times she had experienced some intense but superficial orgasms, the kind that flashed …