Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
It’s Friday Night and J has gone to work, MrH dropped him off and we are alone until 10pm. MrH plans to play, if the kiss he gave me earlier is anything to go by. My body had responded to that kiss like a horny wanton slut. Tea was cooked and eaten when MrH came into the room with a handful of black and said “when you have showered, shaved and so on, you are required to wear these.” Instructions. I can’t lie, my body …
I don’t really have lists of what I want to do, I gave up on them after my dad died. What is the point of making lists and plans when they can be taken from you at the drop of a hat? So I can’t really do a bucket list. I believe if you want to do something bad enough don’t ever wait, you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. Instead I am going to do a wish list. Living for Right Now Does that mean I never …
Punishment or Discipline? In the world of BDSM, the ‘D’ can mean Discipline or Dominance. We don’t really explore the full scope of BDSM, because I am not a huge fan of pain. I do not want bruises or to bleed as some people who are masochistic do; and I don’t believe that MrH would want me bruised and bloodied. We exist more in the BD (Bondage & Discipline) and the DS (Dominance & Submission) range. While we explore bondage, (I love being tied up), …
Within a D/s relationship with a power exchange like ours, control is just an illusion. We have agreed rules and boundaries; Mr H works within those boundaries. To the outside world, it looks like Mr H has all the power because he makes the decisions. And, that is where the illusion lies, because I have the power to veto anything I don’t want to do by using a safeword, or by calling the whole agreement off. It begins with a conversation. When we started our …
Pressing the vibrator against her needy sex, she allowed her eyes to close and her head relaxed against the pillows. She needed to come, the oral attention she had shown him this morning had left her horny and tense. Even though their play had ended with him fucking her, hard, she hadn’t climaxed, and that was ok. She loved being used, it formed part of their dynamic, but the last few play times she had experienced some intense but superficial orgasms, the kind that flashed …
I am spoiled in many ways. MrH would give me anything I wanted if he could, if time and money were no object I might add, but in all honesty I think I am happy with very little. I don’t crave those usual indulgences, like expensive jewelry or perfumes. I like little things. A Little Treat I like chocolate. Nice dark chocolate. My favourite is Lindt Excellence Caramel with a touch of salt, or Dark Mint. These I see as an indulgence because it’s usually £2 …
Twice a week The SafeworD/s Club host chats, they are an online munch if you will, a safe space to chat and share with like minded people. I join in as much as possible and if you haven’t been there click the link to create an account. (Details of the chat times are at the bottom of this post.) Last night at the chat I mentioned that I had a plan to place all MrH’s toys into drawers so he could access them more easily, …
When we entered into a D/s relationship, MrH and I talked about our fantasies and it opened up a whole world of sexual play that had been previously unexplored. In our early years I purchased a number of traditional dress up items. A French Maids outfit and a PVC dress were worn with stockings to great effect and MrH’s delight, but having worn them once, having seen them once, MrH would always decline when I asked if he wished me to wear them again. I …
Not the food, the singer. I love a power ballad, and Meatloaf is very good at them. Of course “I would do anything for Love- but I won’t do that” is the song most people think of when you say Meatloaf, in fact I read somewhere (probably twitter) that Meatloaf is the perfect safeword – cos it means you will do anything but not that.. but I digress. I do love that song but I have always preferred “I’d lie for you (and that’s the …
MrH got the Doxy out, and I got out of bed and went to the loo. It’s not sexy I know but I always pee before sex, (real life right?!) and part of my worry over squirting is that although I have read the studies that say it’s not pee and I know it doesn’t smell like pee, it still a worry, so I figure if my bladder is empty then it’s not pee and I can relax. At least that’s the theory. So, on …