Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
I’m drained. Emotionally. Physically. Mentally. I want to curl up and cry. Mr H knows I’m not ok, and he’s worried but I don’t know how to fix me, I don’t know what I need. I feel distant and disconnected, from myself and everything. The last few weeks (months?) have caught up with me. Drained by life. I’ve had a few friends I haven’t been able to connect with/talk to because, well they are busy and have their own things to deal with, but I miss …
Since we began our D/s journey Mr H and I have made some amazing friends. We have met some in real life, some we will likely never meet due to the logistics (they live abroad), and some, who we hope to meet at next years Eroticon. I think, like most we initially chatted to people online. Mr H chose communities for us to join, Fetlife was the first he asked me about. Let me explain. I suggested adding BDSM to our relationship and then I …
Over the last 2 years our rituals have changed quite a bit, although the format has remained the same the words and actions have changed to suit our needs at the time. In the beginning, for our morning and night collar exchange I would always be kneeling. This collar exchange is our most ritualistic activity. Every now and then Mr H would tell me to stay standing so he didn’t have to bend down. This became more frequent until eventually the kneeling became a thing …
I asked Mr H a few nights ago to tell me more about what turns him on. I am quite curious to know, and Mr H struggles to articulate these things. Normally when I ask him these questions he responds with “You do,” or “I don’t know what you want me to say,” so I gave him a few days to think about it. What turns him on revealed. This gone Wednesday night, when MrH climbed into bed, he began by saying, “So, you want …
Recently a young lady our son knows took an overdose. Fortunately she’s ok. When she was discharged from the hospital she agreed to come to our home for a while, she needs somebody to look after her while she continues to recover. It breaks my heart that there are so many young people with such despair, and so sure that life has nothing to offer them except pain. When I saw this prompt for Sex Bloggers 4 Mental Health, I knew immediately how to respond. …
I am part of an amazing online community called The SafeworD/s Club, and they have regular chat nights when we discuss various topics. The chat this Tuesday was Anal play. I started by saying this is something that I do enjoy butt (see what I did there? Haha) it isn’t something we do and so I didn’t know how much I would be able to contribute. Submissy the hostess of the club asked I thought you liked it? And she’s quite right I do, but …
Over the last few years we have bought and tried a number of sex toys, quite a few of them are vibrators. Usually MrH tells me to try it out alone to see how I like it. It gives me the opportunity to experiment without worrying about being watched. The thing is, I think I’d like that to be different. There is part of me that wants MrH to be there. I want MrH to learn how I try them out. I want him to …
Public play isn’t something we have done, but we’ve spoken about it. We went to an event (of sorts) and watched our good friend administer a flogging to her slave. It was interesting to watch. Sexy Public Play Initially when we first went to The Townhouse I was intrigued by all the equipment. There’s a sex swing in the BDSM room that I would like MrH to fuck me in. There’s a medical chair that he could secure me in and then play with me, …
My last post Blah talked about how I was feeling a bit off and how MrH had read over my shoulder that I “wasn’t in a good place,” which prompted him to start a conversation about it. I amended the original ending to include that we had talked, and went on to say what I should have perhaps said. MrH didn’t see the altered ending. But…. I nipped to the loo. When I came back he was waiting with my night collar. He changed my …
I got my treat tonight. Mr H had a shower and then, when he came back into the bedroom he put a pillow on the floor at the foot of the bed. He got the wand out and plugged it in. Then he got a mat out and covered the pillow. I could feel my heart start to pound and my pussy reacted getting wet. I’ll be honest, I expected Mr H to pick the penis in vagina bent over the bed fuck. He seems to …