Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
What do you wear for a party when you are into kinky things like rope bondage? When we went to our first BDSM event TAT2 I wore fishnets and black (I have included an image in the slideshow) and Mr H wore a black shirt and trousers. I felt very sexy and I was pleased with how the outfit turned out. We do go to munches when we can, and Mr H liked the idea of me having some rope work under my top which …
Welcome to the new website, A Submissive Wife. Until a few days ago I could be found at sweetgirls journal but, following a critical database error and the discovery that the site had not been backing up since 7th Feb I decided it was time to roll my sleeves up and get serious. With the help of another blogger, who managed to grab my content after 7th Feb as it was cached in her browser history, I have painstakingly rebuilt the last 3 months. The …
I am a naturally curious person. I have always wanted to know how machines work, and what makes people act the way they do. My mum says that as soon as I learned to ask “why?” she didn’t get a moments peace, never satisfied with her answers, I would ask “but why?” over and over again. My curiosity got me into trouble more than once too, when my impulsivity meant I had not thought about the possible consequences. It was this curiosity that led me …
Respect is, in my opinion, one of the cornerstones required for any relationship, not just a D/s one, but how we show that respect can be different from person to person. If an outsider looked in on Mr H and I in the middle of a D/s play session they may feel he shows me no respect at all, for what husband with respect for his wife would call her his slut or whore? Well, one who knows that in the right context these words …
I never thought of myself as an anxious person growing up, but then again, I was extremely proficient at being the child my parents expected me to be in social situations. My mum was “painfully shy” as a child and was determined that I would not be. From a young age she pushed me into social situations, pushed me to talk to children, to perform tricks front of adults, (reciting poems/singing songs) all with the belief that this would not make me shy. Instead I …
I have written before about how, when we are less sexually active my submission and desire quickly vanish. I become snippy and argumentative. I am not as submissive in my mindset and from a sexual point of view, I go cold. A loss of libido if you will. When this happens it takes something deliberate and almost shocking to pull me back. This time, however it seems to have also affected Mr H too. Twice in the last few weeks we have not done my …
What is Love? What is Romance? Two questions that defy a simple answer for every single person has their own concept of them. How I define them would be entirely different to how you do, because they are subjective things. So, with that in mind, I can only really try to explain what they mean to me. Is this Love? Somewhere near the beginning of a new relationship I think we all ask ourselves this question, is this love? Song writers have certainly been able …
When I saw the prompt for Wicked Wednesday I knew exactly what to write in order to answer the question, “who helps you to be the better version of yourself, only because they are in your life? Who strengthens you, motivates you, supports you, knows you like no one else?” The answer for me is quite simple, Mr H. He makes me. From the moment he came into my life in 1995 he changed my world. I fell head over heels in love although it …
I am a little pervert, I will admit that. Whenever I can I sneak a peek at Mr H’s body; when he gets dressed or undressed, when he is in bed. I wake up on and off during the night, because of the pain and when I get back in bed I will reach out for him. Touching him relaxes me, even if it is just his arm. Sometimes I will peek under the covers at his bottom and last night I took a couple …
At the moment I am wearing flight socks during the day because I am so imobile and we (the Doctor and I) suggested that it would be a good plan to prevent DVT. I can’t begin to tell you how sexy they look! Although I suppose if you are into the school girl look then maybe they do, but Mr H isn’t. Even so, he is attentive and caring. Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) There are some things which cause DVT, but mostly it is inactivity, …