Exploring Kink as a Monogamous Married Couple
Has it really been 6 years? yep it has. It was 2017 when we first embarked on our kinky exploration and clearly I can only speak for our relationship, but very few relationships stay the same and ours is no different. The last 6 years have been unique for the whole world in many ways because of the global covid pandemic, but what does our BSDM relationship look like after 6 years? Read on to find out. Home Play. We rarely play at home now. …
Unless you live under a rock, you will be aware that on Thursday the 8th September 2022 Queen Elizabeth II passed away, and the united kingdom entered a period of national mourning. This ended yesterday with her funeral. There have been a number of TV programs on about her life and achievements, and after two days of none stop programming I decided I couldn’t watch any more. I may be a wimp but I was just so upset by them I felt it was not …
I’ve been pretty open about how the weight I have gained has really messed with my head. I have such a negative body image I avoid mirrors, social interactions and sex. The pain management program I did a few weeks ago was awful until I realised I could “hide” my image on the screen, and even then I cringed at the thought that these people could see me. Well last night this came to a head and I ended up in tears. Anxiety It started …
So, it’s been a while, and I thought it was about time to do an update, and tell you what’s new. In many ways not much has changed since my last post, but there have been some. Now, I warn you these are not big changes, we are not fucking like horny teenagers, or living a D/s fiction fantasy, no we are just living our lives as best we can. Starting HRT. First of all, following a few discussions with my GP, I have started …
I don’t believe we ever really stop learning. Even something as simple as the words to a new song or the name of someone we have just met, our minds have an amazing capacity to learn, so why do many of us make the same mistakes over and over again? Why are life lessons so different and often painful in their teaching? I think it is because they more often than not involve our emotions. I am definitely not going to profess to be an …
There are many articles out there that argue monogamy is an unnatural state, and that this is why many relationships fail. I believe that in many cases the relationships fail because the couple didn’t communicate their needs, and work on being together, instead they use these arguments as reasons for cheating on their partners. Now I make no secret of the fact Mr H and I are monogamous. I’ve written about it before in ‘A Dirty Word‘ and explored the nightmares that non-monogamy gives me …
In this new lockdown, as with others, one of the things I see most on social media is how bored people are, going mad, stir crazy, locked up in their homes with their families. I find this saddening and fascinating at the same time. We spend so much time busy with our lives, running here and there, how many of us actually spend time truly together? So many couples reach retirement only to find they do not know each other any more. But I digress …
Well hello 2021. Mr. H and I saw in the new year the way we always do, in bed, sleeping. Real Love. That’s what we have, real love. Not fancy, not glamorous. Just real. The UK is locked down again. Not surprising for most of us and yet despite all the restrictions and warnings from the NHS that it is overwhelmed there were still people selfish enough to protest outside a leading hospital, without masks or following social distancing rules, saying covid is a hoax. …
2020 has kicked our D/s Asses. My chronic pain and all the side effects of that have brought our D/s activities to a resolute stop and it has not only highlighted how much we enjoy them, but how they have become part of our normal lives. D/s, D’not. We used to partake 2 cane sessions each week – Wednesdays and Sundays. As I have lost some of the feeling in my derriere it is no longer safe to do this activity. All D/s activities are …
I think it is fair to say for many people right now life kinda sucks. We are unable to enjoy the freedoms we did in order to ensure the NHS can cope with the number of people that are unwell, and to protect as many vulnerable people as possible. Covid 19 will, I think, be remembered the way we remember the black death and the Spanish Flu, and I for one hope that I do not lose and friends or family to it (touch wood). …