challenges

Challenges, love or hate them you can’t escape them

Life is never free of challenges and learning to face them is just part of life. Of course there are different types of challenges too and some are easier than others. I think it would be fair to say that Covid-19 and the lockdowns imposed have created challenges unlike any my generation has seen. The incidences of domestic violence rose, relationships broke down. Many D/s relationships struggled with no way to openly practice because clubs were closed or children were home all the time. This …

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What’s new with A Submissive Wife? HRT, Munches and more.

So, it’s been a while, and I thought it was about time to do an update, and tell you what’s new. In many ways not much has changed since my last post, but there have been some. Now, I warn you these are not big changes, we are not fucking like horny teenagers, or living a D/s fiction fantasy, no we are just living our lives as best we can. Starting HRT. First of all, following a few discussions with my GP, I have started …

truth

BDSM social events and us – a fun evening out.

I haven’t written in a while, I know, and in some ways that’s because I haven’t felt like I have had anything to actually write about. Our youngest son has now left home and we thought this might give us more freedom to explore our BDSM interests, which in theory it does, but with neighbours and thin walls we haven’t been able to take spanking (or impact play in general) at home any further which is a shame as we both really enjoyed the last …

dancing to music

Why I love listening to music.

Music has always been a part of my life and yet I wouldn’t say I was musically talented. My mum sang to me from the day I was born, a song my grandad used to sing to her, and to this day if she starts to sing it my brothers and I will start yawning. In turn I sang to my boys when they were babies. I do love to sing, but that doesn’t mean I can sing. Loving music. I like to have music …

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Life Lessons – how to make sure you get what you want.

I don’t believe we ever really stop learning. Even something as simple as the words to a new song or the name of someone we have just met, our minds have an amazing capacity to learn, so why do many of us make the same mistakes over and over again? Why are life lessons so different and often painful in their teaching? I think it is because they more often than not involve our emotions. I am definitely not going to profess to be an …

anonymous barefooted melancholic woman embracing knees on floor

When your mind and body rebel.

We went away on Saturday overnight to our favourite hotel and things didn’t quite go as planned. That isn’t to say that a good time wasn’t had, because it was. But my mind and body were not quite in sync, and neither was Mr H’s. A painful body First of all I forgot to adjust my medications and so by the time we arrived at the Hotel I was feeling it. The pain made me snippy and I criticised Mr H’s driving. I didn’t tell …

harbor and building

Do you have a favourite city?

I don’t really have a favourite city. We don’t visit cities often, we both hate the crowds, the incessant movement, the hustle and bustle of people in city centers. It is one place that is guaranteed to bring out Mr H’s “fuck off” face. We are lucky in some ways, as we live in between two city’s, and we can easily travel to either Manchester or Liverpool. Both of us have worked in Manchester, I only did it for 3 months but Mr H worked …

brown leaf trees on forest

What is so special about Autumn?

Autumn, that wonderful time of year when the leaves turn golden brown and russet red. The birds start to migrate south, the temperature drops and the nights get longer. I have always had an affinity with Autumn, probably because my birthday is in October, but I just love the colours that can be seen in nature during this time of year. This has not always been the case though. Season of Sadness Several years ago that all changed. Seven days after my birthday my dad …

Fate brought us together

There’s no fate but what we make.

Yes I know this quote about fate is blatantly stolen from The Terminator and often quoted but it isn’t really something I believe. I have written before about how I believe our lifes are mapped out and that in many ways free will is an illusion. When we make a choice we were always ment to make it, to take that path. Fate – you can’t escape it. If we accept this to be true, that our lives follow a predetermined path, who then determines …

Reclaim my arse

We spent the day in the local a&e and although they gave me some more pain medication we did not achieve our goal; forward movement in a treatment plan.  On the way home I asked Mr H to reclaim my arse. Knees up please. I did undergo all the usual tests which included my least favourite, the finger up the bum and being asked to squeeze their finger test.  No really, that’s an actual test, to see if the anal sphincter muscles are working.  The doctor told …